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There is a saying, American consider spouse more important than children.

Mr. J said it is true in his family. In their common sense, children will leave when they grow up while spouse is the person who always is with you. He added that a good relationship between parents is significant since children will take them as models. “If the relationship between dad and mum is fine, everything will be fine.” How sweet! 

   On the contrary, Chinese weight children more than spouse. In Chinese tradition, the most important thing in marriage is to continue the family line thus Chinese weight children than spouse.

   The young generation may prefer the American way since it offers more space between the husband and wife. In that case, marriage is no longer a nightmare of baby-care, but a romantic everlasting honeymoon. Like most of the girls, I will be glad to make a commitment like that with my husband.

    However, we should be objective. Though bearing a lot of critiques, the Chinese way did have some advantage in controlling the rate of divorce. A lot of parents choose to find out a way to solve their problems instead of rushing to sign divorce, pondering that divorce will do harm to the development of their children. The parents should think twice before they decide to divorce, which is not only good for their children, but also them themselves.